Who's Picking Your 'Eleanor'?

Hey, you, yes, you! What if I told you that the secret to a blissful relationship could be lurking in your future, rather than your present? Picture this, your dream Eleanor (yup, that irresistible Ford Mustang from "Gone in 60 seconds") may not be the model you settle for today because of your current confidence level.

Imagine if your future self, the one you aspire to become, chose your partner. This confident, successful future self knows his value and chooses a mate who's truly compatible. Mind-blowing, right?

Don't Sell Yourself Short!

I knew this dude, let's call him Bob. Bob was good-looking, funny, and all around great guy. But Bob didn't see his value. He thought women only saw him as a friend. Fast forward a few years, and he's dating someone who probably felt the same way he did. Could be love... or maybe they both just ran out of options. Don't be like Bob.

The True Cost of Compromise

Remember that Eleanor? You wanted her, but you settled for the cheaper model because you didn't believe the real Eleanor would still be available. That's the confidence talking, and it's messing with your happiness. Now, what happens when you discover Eleanors are not that rare after all? You're stuck with Old Faithful, which doesn't quite cut it.

Rising to Your Value

Let's shift gears. You're in a relationship, and all's going well. Suddenly, your value shoots up. You've been promoted, lost weight, or came into a windfall. Congrats, Big Boss, you can now afford the real Eleanor! But wait, you're already with someone. You're loyal, so you resist the allure of the shiny new Eleanors.

But then, your dream Eleanor is offered to you for a test drive, no strings attached. Can you resist? If Old Faithful starts giving you trouble, chances are, you're going for that test drive.

The Costly Aftermath

So you cave in, test-drive that Eleanor and get lured in by the attention it brings. You can't afford both, so you let Old Faithful sit in the garage, while you splurge on Eleanor. But guess what? Someone else notices Old Faithful and sees the value you missed.

Back to Square One

Your shiny new Eleanor turns out to be a lemon. And while you're dealing with the fallout, Old Faithful has moved on, possibly upgraded by her new owner. If you're lucky enough to get Old Faithful back, she's not the same anymore.

Key Points:

1. Your future self should choose your partner, not your current confidence level.
2. Don't settle for less because of a perceived scarcity. True love isn't a limited edition Eleanor.
3. Your value can change, but your commitment should remain.
4. Moving on to a shiny new Eleanor might cost you your Old Faithful.

This humorous and slightly twisted journey is to help you understand the psychology of love and relationships. If you've ever wondered why people cheat, it might be because they didn't test enough Eleanors to recognize the value of Old Faithful. So, strap in, and let's find our true Eleanors together!

Once upon a steamy summer's night...

Let's journey back, my friends, to the age when men were hunters, women were gatherers, and love was a game of sacrifice and gain. It's me, your relationship whisperer and swagger captain, about to dish out a lesson you'll remember.

The Grit and Glitter of the Olden Days

Back in the days of yore, women were nurturing souls, tending the hearth while men ventured out for work. Men would return home, eyes sparkling, longing for the warmth of their better halves. The women knew their worth, but over time, they sought new opportunities outside the home.

The Smorgasbord of Love

Fast-forward to today, and ladies, we're in the wild wild west of the love market. With myriad options, it's like a never-ending Toys 'R Us spree. But honey, remember - you're not just any toy on the shelf; you're a rare, priceless collector's item.

The Great Buffet Analogy

Think of your relationship like an all-you-can-eat buffet. If there's too much on offer, can you truly savor that favorite dish of yours? The same goes for love. When you're valued, cherished, and exclusive, you become that irresistible dish he craves.

Negotiation: The Heart of Love

In the marketplace of love, successful bargaining is key. The deal? You're offering a relationship or better yet, a diamond-studded marriage, and he's buying—if the price feels right. If he's going to fork over time, affection, and sideline all other options, you better be worth it, darling!

The Three-Tier Love Cake

Remember, there are levels to this negotiation, each needing equal exchange and mutual consent:

1. Man and Woman
2. Boyfriend and Girlfriend
3. Husband and Wife

This balance is what separates the forever couples from the temporary flings.

The Value of Appreciation

A man's heart flutters when he sees his woman's value growing. This realization is sweeter than the finest wine and more satisfying than the heftiest paycheck. He'll want to be a part of that growth and journey with you.

A Double Whammy for the Ladies

The modern woman is a warrior. She battles in the boardroom and manages the homefront. But listen up, darling, you're not meant to do it all! If you're doing double duty, he'll think you're good on your own, leaving your love negotiations off-balance.

Stay Sharp, Stay Desirable

Ladies and gents, it's a tough market out there. But remember, you always have the power to upgrade. Staying on your A-game keeps the spice alive. As they say in the classic movie "Sleepers", "Going soft is a habit, you have to keep yourself mean."

Key Points:

• Understand your worth in the love market.
• Negotiate equally in every stage of your relationship.
• Appreciate your partner's growth and value.
• Balance your duties to maintain relationship equilibrium.
• Keep on your A-game to remain desirable.

Introduction:

Have you ever thought about how relationships and money intertwine? It might sound crazy, but stay with me. Let's dive in deep - not the '50 Shades of Grey' kind of deep, but rather the "ah-ha!" moment that forever changes how you view relationships.

Part 1: Relationships - The Ultimate Exchange

Did you know relationships are like a bustling marketplace? Here's the twist: Men want to buy, and they relish the power that comes with it. Picture this: We met at a cool Clubhouse party, and one thing led to another. Suddenly, we're back at your place. You offer me your heart (and maybe a sandwich) on a silver platter, all for the low, low price of nothing. But let's be real, nobody values freebies as they should.

Part 2: The Cost of Love

Here's a secret: I may start by seeing your worth as zero. Sounds harsh, right? But it's like having a shiny new toy - one that can be played with or tossed aside. Not acknowledging your own value is like having a Harvard degree but settling for a job in the mailroom. You're the cow offering milk for free, darling.

Part 3: Make Him Invest in You

Understanding your value changes the game. It's like putting the right price tag on a sought-after item. The goal is to make him invest - not just money, but his time, affection, and yes, his heart. Have him fall so deeply in love that he imagines a life with you, the same way a man drools over a new Porsche and dreams of speeding down the highway.

Remember the story of Adam and Eve? Adam waited for Eve, and so can your potential partners. The same burning desire Moses had to liberate his people should be the same passion a man has for you.

Part 4: Flip the Switch

Let's say you're pampering him: homemade meals, paying his bills, buying him kicks. You're offering a premium service in exchange for the intangible feeling of love. Yet, he might still switch you for someone he has to chase. This doesn't make her more valuable; she just knows how to play the seller. So, remember: always know your worth.

Conclusion: Knowing Your Worth

The misunderstanding in this narrative isn't about your worth but realizing it. In a market, buyers invest in items that appreciate over time. It's why I might struggle with you but ultimately, it's about the long-term reward. It's like stay-at-home moms; they understand their service is invaluable.

Key Points:

1. Relationships are a form of trading, where one party is buying and the other selling.
2. Understanding and acknowledging your worth can change your dating dynamics.
3. Make your partner invest in you - emotionally, not just materially.
4. Don't compromise your value for the fear of losing a relationship.

The Divine Value System: Understanding Your Worth

From the dawn of creation, the divine has marked a unique place for each of us in the value system. The Almighty, Man, Woman, and Child, each is intertwined with the other, illuminating their worth and value.

The Almighty's Identity Through Man

The divine recognises its omnipotence by creating man. Man, in turn, plays a vital role in the cycle of life, contributing to the creation of woman and, eventually, child. Strip away man, and the divine's power remains intact, but its manifestation would be lost. In essence, women and children wouldn't exist. This delicate balance has been skewed in recent times.

Unraveling the Origin: Adam, Eve, and the Forbidden Fruit

The divine breathed life into Adam, confirming its godly status. Then, crafting Eve from Adam's rib, it ignited a love that was truly divine. Adam and Eve, the first companions, loved without the knowledge of gender. They were simply best friends in paradise.

The Almighty, to maintain harmony, entrusted Adam with a single rule. Yet, to instill value in Eve, He gave her the ultimate choice - to eat or not to eat from the forbidden tree.

Eve's Journey to Self-Realization

Eve couldn't sow seeds or plow fields, nor should she have to. Her worth would be discovered in motherhood. This divine plan could only unfold if the Almighty remained silent, offering Eve the choice to acknowledge her divine origin.

Note: Throughout time, teachings have referred to the divine as HIM or a MAN. This is used here for consistency, acknowledging that the Almighty is all-encompassing.

The option to eat from the tree had to be there. Only by tasting the forbidden fruit together could Adam and Eve awaken to their true identities.

Embrace Your Perfection: A Modern Perspective

Fast-forward several centuries, and this divine truth remains as relevant as ever - You're perfect! 'Perfection' is the pinnacle of what one can be. If there's an exact copy of something, it's perfect. Let's use a pencil for instance.

The Uniqueness of YOU - The Ultimate Perfection

Remember, you're unique, one-of-a-kind. That alone makes you perfect. The illusion of imperfection arises only when you compare yourself to others. You might crave someone else's physique, features, or hair, but consider this - it takes at least five different people to measure up to your uniqueness.

Closing Note:

Now that you understand your divine origin and purpose, it's time to embrace your perfection. You're perfect, just as you are!

Key Points:

• Understand the divine value system and the roles of God, Man, Woman, and Child
• Explore the story of Adam and Eve and the choice that defined their identities
• Learn about your unique worth and perfection

Love Thyself to Attract the Love You Desire

If you're tirelessly hitting the club scene, hoping to find Prince Charming only to find Mr. Wrong time and time again, maybe it's time to stop pointing fingers and take a look in the mirror. You and I, we're all part of a prime whole, and we need each other to exist. But understand, self-sufficiency isn't a myth, it's just misunderstood.

The Nightmarish Dream - Decoding Mixed Signals

Ever felt a tug-of-war of emotions? That's the thrilling rollercoaster ride of love. One moment you're all hearts for me, and the next, you're tossing daggers. Yet, it's merely a reflection of your inner turmoil. In the neon-lit battlefield of the club, amidst the deafening music, we try to decode each other's silent cues.

The False Promise of the Night

The blurry club lights create an illusion of romance. You hear sweet whispers, promising a future together, but you might be hearing what you want to hear. Don't be fooled by the giggle or the light-hearted banter. Not every engaging conversation promises an engagement ring!

The Morning After Reality

As the night fades, and reality dawns, you realize the intoxicating words were just that - words. The rhythmic dance and the lustful gazes were fleeting, and you're back to square one, back at the club.

Recognize Your Worth - A Prime You

Here's the big reveal - the man you want is you! Not literally, but metaphorically. It's about recognizing your worth and not settling for anything less. Stop giving yourself away for free. You're prime, remember? Love yourself first, and let your actions reflect your value. Make the nightmares fade away, turn your actual into your real, and ditch the duality.

Key Points:

• Understand the importance of self-love and value in a relationship
• Recognize the illusion of club promises and false engagements
• Identify your worth and stop selling yourself short
• Eliminate duality to turn nightmares into dreams

Introduction

Unleash your inner first-grader and fasten your seatbelt, folks. We’re about to embark on a journey to the enchanting world of Show and Tell Fridays - the ultimate paradise where lost eyes, frayed blankets, and wingless Buzz Lightyears reign. If your relationship isn't like this wholesome carnival, maybe it's time for a reality check. Don't settle for anything less than that heartwarming love that only a favorite toy could understand.

Witness the Celebration of Imperfections

Imperfections make us real, and there's nothing more heart-tugging than watching little ones cherish their worn-out, treasured toys with unwavering affection. Imagine your partner looking at you like that - missing pieces, chipped paint, and all. The unabashed love on display will make your heart flutter.

Be Each Other's Favorite

In love, you should be each other's favorite, just like that cherished one-eyed teddy bear. If you feel like you're only taken out of the toy box at night, it's time for a serious conversation.

Usher-ly Speaking...

Usher nailed it with his chart-topping hit "You Got It Bad". Real love is when both of you "got it bad". It's Show and Tell Friday every day, not just an after-midnight thing.

Love like a Favorite Toy

Why settle for less when you can love and be loved like a favorite toy? If you need guidance in finding someone who cherishes you just as much, drop a comment or reach out - I'm here for you!

Key Points:

• Celebrate your imperfections
• Be each other's favorite
• Real love is a 24/7 commitment, not just an after-midnight call
• Always aim for a love like a favorite toy

Published on December 11, 2011