Unleashing the Genuine Love Game

Been parroting "fake it till you make it"? Time to drop that chant and introduce a new catchphrase: "Genuine Love Game". I touched upon the societal construct of boys playing with Barbie Dolls, Baby Dolls, and just being boys. That's where we learn to flex our muscles - strategy, dominance, competitiveness, camaraderie. But for those men who didn't participate in this instinctive training, they are on a different quest - they seek advice.

Playing Hitch - the Genuine Love Game Approach

If you're in the role of a Hitch remake, strategically aiming to win a particular lady's heart, then cheers to you! The fact that you're seeking advice on your genuine love game tells me you're aware of your boundaries, your identity, and your audacity to chase what you desire.

The Misguided Love Gladiators

For the others, who couldn't score in high school, college, or even life, anger becomes your companion. Recall our discussion on suppression theory - it's a revelation of what's happening within you. You've imprisoned those desires, turning from a victim to a Sensei. But if you're exploiting your power against the untrained, aren't you the new oppressor?

Your scoop and score record may have skyrocketed post-"training", but is that the essence of your genuine love game? Or are you just showcasing your might against the oblivious? Remember, your target isn't your past rejections, but an unsuspecting person who doesn't know your grip on her heart.

Genuine Love Game Runs on Premium Energy

Any man overflowing with the premium energy of love doesn't say, "She's drop-dead gorgeous, I want her for tonight". Your suppressed sexual energy is like a shaken soda can - ready to burst. It overpowers your normal state, pushing you into a tiresome loop. You charm her, unravel her emotions, while concealing yours. You reflect a machismo facade that you think women find irresistible. But it's a ticking time bomb because you can't keep pretending. You faked it till you made it, but what about your genuine love game?

Navigating the Genuine Love Game

If you need a compass in the labyrinth of love, I'm here. Leave a comment, tune in, or continue reading. And don't forget, be unapologetically selfish - because through your joy, others find their reflection.

Key Points

1. Childhood playtime impacts the adult genuine love game.
2. Seeking advice is strength, not weakness.
3. The repercussions of suppressed desires.
4. The pitfalls of a machismo facade in love.
5. How to improve your genuine love game.

The Friend Zone Dilemma: Embrace Confidence and Take Charge

Okay, listen up! It's time to face the hard truth I told you years ago: men and women can't just be friends, at least not until after you're married. Wondering why you ended up in the friend zone? Well, I'll be blunt—it's because of you. Yep, I said it. YOU are the freaking problem. But fear not, my friend, because I'm here to guide you out of that abyss. Get ready for a reality check that will make you swear off the friend zone forever. Let's dive in!

The Attraction Factor: It's More Than Just Friendship

Let's set the record straight. You didn't just walk up to each other and say, "Hey, let's be friends." There was something that initially sparked your interest. You could argue it was school or work that brought you together, but that's a low self-esteem way of thinking, and it's time to toss that idea out the window. Release the contract you have with that notion. Sure, you may have crossed paths in class or at work, but the fact that you're hanging out beyond those obligations should clue you in, genius.

Boost Your Confidence: From Faking It to Making It

Now, let's talk about confidence. You had the confidence to engage in those after-hours activities. No, not necessarily sex (keep up, will you?). I've got a mantra for you: "You faked it until you made it, now what?" You faked having SWAG, and guess what? Unless you're truly oblivious, you've got it! The time has come to unleash your inner charisma and start acting on it. And now, let's get to the juicy stuff.

Understanding the Energy Game: Winning Hearts and Minds

Energy, my friend, is the secret ingredient. If you're a guy trying to win over that lucky lady who currently sees you as just a friend, let me set things straight—she's not your friend, bro. She's the object of your affection, the apple of your eye. So, what are you doing wrong? You're leaving her hanging. Picture this: your car and its gas tank. Your car represents her, and you fill her up with premium love energy. You take her on romantic outings and do everything that screams "romance." But here's the catch—it's not truly romantic unless there's genuine passion, genius. To fill her tank to the brim, you need to provide that super high-octane, sexual energy. If you fail to give her that, you make it easy for any random person off the street to swoop in and steal her heart by delivering that missing piece. You've done all the groundwork for me—the more confident gentleman. I just need to provide that sexual energy, and voilà, you're officially on the back burner, while I decide your fate. But here's the kicker—you're more confident than you realize.

No More Settling: Embrace Your Desires and Speak Up

Ah, the classic "I don't want to ruin the friendship" dilemma. Is something better than nothing? Hell no! Something is only better than nothing if that's all you truly want. But if you crave more, you've got to go out and get it. Here's a tip: stop being freaking timid and tell her how you feel. Timidity only arises when confidence is lacking. Take her saying she wants to be friends in one of two ways: 1. She's just as scared as you are and is letting you off the hook with the "friends" label. 2. You're not man enough in her eyes—at least not yet. You need to create that impulse buy, like those limited-time offers you see in commercials. Suppose she brings up being friends again; you cut ties without further explanation. She'll be left wondering what happened, and you simply tell her that you wanted more. No need to elaborate. Walk away with that level of confidence, and trust me, she'll feel a surge of attraction. Boom! She better make a decision, and fast. With your newfound confidence, girls like her will be magnetized to you from all directions.

Embrace Your Confidence and Let Him Chase

Ladies, here's the deal. You just need to embrace your confidence and let him come to you. But if you want to release some of that tension, put him in situations that force him to make a decision. Picture this: you're face-to-face for whatever reason, and you grab him, waiting for that long-awaited kiss. If he doesn't seize the moment, he lacks the confidence to be with you. And guess what? He'll never be able to fill your bucket, so it's on to the next one. Women have it easy in this game—all you need is confidence. We'll take care of the rest. And if we're not stepping up, then it's time to reevaluate what you're attracting. It all starts with your thoughts. Make a list of all the things you want in a man, and I mean every single thing. If he can't check off every item, well, you know what's going to happen. Let your confidence guide your choices, and watch as you attract the partner you truly desire.

The Moral of the Story: Confidence is Everything

Here's the bottom line: confidence is key. There's no such thing as opposite-sex besties—at least not in the way you think. Someone is not keeping it real. But fear not, I'm here for you. Leave a comment below to share your thoughts. Oh, and if you want a shortcut to understanding buckets and nozzles (you'll get it, trust me), check out this, that, and the other thing. Suppressing your feelings will only lead to explosions at the wrong time, expressing the wrong ideas, and being misunderstood.

If you need help with relationships, I'm here to assist. Leave a comment, keep reading, and stay tuned.

And always remember, be freaking selfish—through your happiness, others can find inspiration within themselves.

Key Points:

1. Recognize that attraction goes beyond just friendship.
2. Build and unleash your confidence to make a move.
3. Understand the role of energy in creating a romantic connection.
4. Communicate your true feelings and desires without hesitation.
5. Embrace your confidence and let it magnetize potential partners.
6. For women, have confidence and create situations that prompt action.
7. Assess your attraction based on your desired qualities in a partner.
8. Confidence is the key to unlocking romantic possibilities.
9. There's no such thing as true opposite-sex besties.
10. Let your happiness inspire others to find their own self-confidence.

Unraveling the Re-Lease Love Concept

Every relationship is a contract—a lease of love and commitment between two parties. However, like any contract, if one party isn't fulfilling their part or there's a miscommunication, it's time to rewrite the terms and "Re-Lease Love".

The Currency of Beliefs

Sounds like we're spinning a love fairytale? Let's discuss money to illustrate this concept of Re-Lease Love.

The world often believes that wealth only accompanies the corrupt or the exceptionally lucky—a lease signed between society and an erroneous belief. This contract essentially states: if I'm not wealthy, I'm not crooked or overly fortunate. It's time to revoke that lease!

Why? Because it's baseless—you're neither crooked nor excessively lucky just because you desire to be financially stable. It's time to re-negotiate the terms with your beliefs and sign a new lease—one that empowers and uplifts you.

The Dinner Date Dilemma

Imagine a couple who decide not to dine out often. Yet, at every opportunity, one of them suggests hitting their favorite restaurant. This inconsistency hints at a breached agreement—an opportunity to Re-Lease Love. Perhaps one of them assumed 'not often' meant 'not every weekend', while the other took it as 'never'. To restore harmony, they need to re-clarify and re-agree on the terms of their pact.

The Fight and Release Paradox

In a previous post, we highlighted that men release sexual energy through fights, while women receive it. Arguments serve a purpose—they're pressure valves for men and fillers for women's emotional reservoir. They're opportunities to Re-Lease Love and reach an emotional equilibrium. However, an argument without making up afterwards, in whatever form resonates with the couple, is akin to using a public restroom—you get temporary relief but not complete satisfaction.

Re-Leasing Love - 100% Accountability

The golden key to effectively Re-Lease Love? Absolute accountability. Understand your actions, the reasons behind your words, the triggers for your fights. When you take 100% responsibility, you can predict and possibly prevent recurring arguments. You unclasp your emotional nozzle, allowing love to flow freely. She removes the brick from her emotional bucket, becoming receptive to your love.

Key Points

1. Understand and apply the concept of Re-Lease Love.
2. Re-negotiate your agreements when required.
3. Use disagreements as opportunities to release and receive love.
4. Adopt 100% accountability to maintain a healthy emotional balance.

Embrace the Art of Seduction: Sparks That Vanish Arguments

Ready to turn up the heat and banish those pesky arguments? Brace yourself as we dive into the captivating world of seduction. But first, let's set the stage with a quick recap.

Love Buckets and Energy: The Seductive Connection

You're already on board with the concept of love buckets for women and energy nozzles for men. It's time to explore how energy manifests itself in three enticing forms. Regular energy, the slow burner; premium energy, the love booster; and super high octane, the fiery fuel. Remember, seduction is all about harnessing this energy to create irresistible sparks.

Unleash the Seductive Powers: From Negative to Passionate

Picture this: you're feeling negative, a cloud of gloom surrounds you. But here's where seduction works its magic. Super high octane energy can intensify those negative feelings, turning them into a burning desire for connection. On the flip side, when you're fueled by love energy, super high octane becomes the catalyst that ignites passion like never before. It's a seductive dance of emotions.

The Battle of the Sexes: Seduction Unveiled

Men and women fight for different reasons, driven by their distinctive energy dynamics. Women seek arguments when their energy levels drop, craving a quick recharge. Think of those trivial arguments that erupt into something bigger—they're an attempt to refuel their love buckets. On the other hand, men with excessive energy need an outlet, leading them to fight, argue, or indulge in sexual encounters. It's a primal response seeking balance.

Seduction as the Solution: Intimacy to the Rescue

Ready for the secret weapon to end arguments? It's time to embrace the power of seduction—specifically, sexual intimacy. When you engage in passionate lovemaking, men release super high-octane energy while women receive it, translating into love energy. It's a delicate equilibrium that restores balance and dissipates tension. The effects are remarkable men become too relaxed to argue, and women are energized beyond the need for conflicts.

The Reset Button: Balancing Energy, Love, and Desire

In relationships, we need each other to find balance. It's like stepping into a puddle, soaking your socks. You feel a surge of frustration while trying to complete your tasks. Similarly, arguments arise when both partners are out of sync energetically. The key is to recognize that most arguments stem from external factors, not personal attacks. Instead of adding fuel to the fire, offer love and understanding, allowing your partner to release negative energy and refuel with love.

The Road to Bliss: Seductive Solutions

Ninety percent of arguments can be defused by recognizing external triggers and responding with love and compassion. Remember, you're a team, and your love for each other can conquer any challenges that come your way. So, indulge in a seductive dance, playfully filling each other's buckets with love energy. Find pleasure in the rewards of your efforts and let the passion between you reignite like never before.

Key Points to Remember

1. Seduction is the key to ending arguments and fueling passion.
2. Energy dynamics differ between men and women, leading to fights for different reasons.
3. Sexual intimacy is a powerful tool to restore balance and dissipate tension.
4. External factors often trigger arguments—offer love and understanding instead of fueling the fire.
5. Embrace seduction as a way to connect deeply and reignite the passion in your relationship.

Unveiling the Mysteries: Can We Determine Cheating Up or Down?

When it comes to assessing whether someone has cheated up or down, it's not an easy task. We cannot truly comprehend their vantage point. However, let's delve into the logic behind this concept and attempt to gain a deeper understanding.

The Starting Point: Choosing a Mate

In relationships, we often choose a partner based on the belief that we are getting their maximum potential. This means they possess about eighty percent of the qualities we desire in a mate. This baseline becomes the standard for our expectations.

Women: Expanding the Baseline

For women, finding a mate sets a new baseline. Let's say your first partner had a car. The next partner you choose must meet or exceed that baseline by having a car and something additional, such as a job. The perception here is that women cheat up, constantly seeking to expand their baseline and attract partners who offer more.

Men: Filling the Bucket

For men, the goal is to expand their "bucket" of energy by attracting more partners. This can create the perception that men cheat up. However, there's a twist. When men find a partner who aligns with their maximum potential, they commit, believing they have found everything they desire in one place. From this perspective, men cheat down when they step away from this committed relationship, seeking a partner who presents fewer challenges or headaches.

The Role of Game

Both men and women navigate this complex landscape by employing what we call "game." It involves presenting ourselves as the maximum version of what our potential mate desires, even if we haven't fully reached that potential. By attracting partners based on our minimum, we have room to grow and impress them with our hidden qualities. This way, they appreciate us more as they discover our full potential.

Appreciating in Value

Attracting a mate based on our minimum allows us to appreciate in value. As they initially perceive us as smart, attractive, and well-rounded, they are yet to witness our full potential. When they eventually discover our additional qualities, such as financial stability or domestic skills, their admiration and appreciation grow.

Understanding the Dynamics

Men tend to pick partners based on their maximum confidence level. However, when faced with relationship challenges or overwhelming situations, they may seek partners at a lower level to reduce headaches—cheating down. On the other hand, women establish a baseline and expand their energy bucket, seeking partners who offer more to meet their evolving needs—cheating up. Employing game allows both men and women to present their minimum potential, paving the way for growth and mutual discovery.

Key Points:

1. Cheating up or down refers to the perception of seeking partners who are either above or below one's initial baseline in a relationship.
2. Women often cheat up by expanding their baseline, seeking partners who offer more than their previous relationships.
3. Men cheat down when they step away from committed relationships to find partners who present fewer challenges or headaches.
4. Both men and women employ "game" to attract partners based on their minimum potential, allowing room for growth and impressing them with hidden qualities.
5. Attracting a mate based on one's minimum allows for appreciation in value as additional qualities are revealed over time.
6. Understanding the dynamics of cheating up or down can provide insights into mate selection and relationship dynamics.

Discovering Magnetic Attractions in Relationships

Do you ever wonder what makes a relationship sizzle with electric intensity? This isn't about caviar dreams and champagne kisses—it's about magnetic attractions, the unseen power that binds two hearts together.

The Sexy Truth about Expectations in Relationships

You meet someone who sets your pulse racing, they seem perfect—just like Ken or Barbie straight out of a dreamy playset. But here's a little secret, hotshot—perfection is a mirage. People are perfectly imperfect, and that's what makes us real, that's what fuels the magnetic attractions.

Ladies, if you've found a guy who's less than your Ken but has a future that shines brighter than a diamond, don't hesitate. His ambitions can light up your world if you let them.

Gents, you might want to impress the lady on your arm with a lavish steak dinner and expensive wine on your first date. But remember, the magic isn't in the price tag—it's in the shared laughter, the lingering glances, the magnetic attractions between you.

The Art of Balance in Relationships: Minimum vs. Maximum

Let's talk about balance, my darlings. It's the sexy tightrope walk every couple must master. Start with your minimum, but make it feel like a maximum. It's like a tantalizing striptease, slowly revealing your full potential.

The Truth about Gold Diggers and Players

Picture this—you're at a swanky bar, and you spot someone dressed to the nines, exuding an aura of luxury. Gold digger? Maybe. Or just someone with a vast capacity for love? Men, this is a woman with an ocean-sized bucket needing your love energy to fill it.

And ladies, ever met a man oozing charisma, the life of every party, a true player? He's not a villain; he's simply a man bursting with energy, waiting for the right bucket to pour his love into.

Key Points

1. Discover and foster your magnetic attractions.
2. Manage expectations in relationships—perfection is a myth.
3. Balance your minimum with their perceived maximum for continued growth.
4. "Gold diggers" and "players" are just labels—every person is a universe unto themselves.

Understanding Feminism: More Than a Dictionary Definition

Beyoncé, in her concerts and music, often tries to redefine feminism for her audience, bringing the concept into the mainstream. However, it's essential to delve deeper into the true meaning of feminism and its implications.

Men, Women, and the Energy They Produce

One of the underlying themes of feminism is equality. However, equality doesn't mean exact replication. Women cannot duplicate the specific energy that men produce, nor should they try. Likewise, men cannot replicate the unique energy that women embody. It's about recognizing the inherent value each gender brings to the table, rather than trying to make one fit into the mold of the other.

The Power of Creation: The Real Strength of Women

Feminism often gets misinterpreted as a call for women to shed traditional roles and adopt ones that society has historically reserved for men. However, this overlooks the fact that the power of creation, of bringing life into this world, is a uniquely feminine strength. Instead of downplaying it, we should celebrate this capability.

The Shift We Need: From Patriarchal to Matriarchal Society

Throughout history, we see remnants of the feminine touch in our cultural and societal structures. From art to language, all things considered feminine have survived the passage of time. Perhaps it's time to rethink our societal structures. Instead of a patriarchal society that places men at the top, we should consider shifting towards a matriarchal society, valuing and emphasizing the feminine aspects of creation and nurturing.

Feminism: The Misunderstood Concept

Is not about separation or devaluation, but about recognizing and appreciating the value of women in society. Feminism calls for an understanding that the ability to create life is not worthless but priceless. It's about fostering a society where women's worth is recognized and respected, where they're encouraged to protect and cherish their unique capabilities.

The Numbers Game: Reimagining Equality

At first glance, one might see men as more productive in terms of the ability to procreate, given that a man can father many children in a year while a woman can typically bear only one. However, this perspective fails to take into account the incredible journey of pregnancy and childbirth that women undergo. It’s not about quantity; it’s about the quality and profundity of the experience.

The True Meaning of Feminism: Love, Not Competition

Ultimately, the term "feminist" should not be viewed as a divisive label but as a symbol of love and unity. As Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie poignantly put it, "Feminist: the person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes". This belief should not pit men and women against each other but should promote mutual respect, understanding, and love.

Remember, always be authentically selfish, and by witnessing your happiness, others can envision the same for themselves. “If you can’t see your success, change your vantage pointe."

Key Points

Feminism:

1. Emphasizes the unique strengths and capabilities of women rather than trying to replicate men's roles.
2. Calls for a societal shift towards valuing and emphasizing the feminine aspects of creation and nurturing.
3. Should promote love and unity, not competition, among genders.

An Unusual Wordplay: Unraveling 'Cumpromise'

Get your mind out of the gutter - this isn't about what you might be thinking! 'Cumpromise' is an interesting blend of the Latin word 'cum', which means 'and' or 'with', and the English word 'promise'. Just as 'cum' in Latin brings together two nouns, 'cumpromise' serves two purposes: it encapsulates the two perspectives within a relationship, and represents the concept of mutual agreement.

His and Her Perspectives: A Tale of the 'Popular Junkie' and the 'Homebody'

You might see yourself as a 'Popular Junkie', someone who thrives in social situations, basking in the energy of a crowd without necessarily needing to be the center of attention. On the other hand, your partner might be a 'homebody', who finds comfort in the warmth of family, friends, and familiar surroundings. Initially, this contrast might not be evident or troublesome, as you find common ground in shared environments, such as a lively home full of roommates or small gatherings with mutual friends. The shift from 'lost' to 'lust' to 'love' in the relationship brings you two closer, and you find joy in the constant companionship. But, the harmony starts to fade as the relationship transitions into a more committed phase.

Unveiling the Rules: The Evolution of Relationship Dynamics

The problem arises when the 'love phase' introduces new 'rules', particularly from your partner who prefers the comfort of home over the hustle and bustle of the outside world. Your once-adventurous outings dwindle to rare occurrences, and when you do get the chance to go out, you find yourself soaking up every moment, unsure of when the next opportunity will arise.

So, where did it all go wrong? Did anyone misrepresent themselves throughout the phases of the relationship? Not necessarily. The issue lies in differing perceptions and expectations.

Finding Balance: The Path to 'Cumpromise'

In the initial phase of the relationship, when you spent time at your partner's home, you enjoyed the social aspects, while she cherished the homey vibes. She viewed you as a reformed social butterfly, content with quieter surroundings, while you saw the socializing as an extension of your outgoing persona. As the relationship evolved, these contrasting perspectives created friction.

But, there's hope. There's nothing inherently wrong with either of you or your preferences. The key to resolving this issue lies in the art of 'cumpromise'. It's about balancing your time, understanding each other's needs, and setting realistic expectations for the relationship. The goal isn't to suppress one's needs for the other, but to find a mutual ground that satisfies both.

Remember, you can only see things from your perspective, but through communication, you can understand your partner's view and work together towards a solution.

"If you can’t see your success, change your vantage point."

Key Points

1. 'Cumpromise' emphasizes the importance of mutual understanding and agreement in a relationship.
2. Differences in social preferences can create tension in a relationship if not addressed properly.
3. Open communication and compromise can help maintain balance in a relationship, ensuring both partners' needs are met.

Understanding Love: Individualistic and Ineffable

Love is a profoundly personal experience. "I can't love you how you would love you. I can only love you how I love you." Just like the thumbprint, each love is distinct and can't be replicated. Love, just like friendship, thrives when individuals find a common ground yet maintain their distinctiveness. But it's important to remember that things won't get done when you want them done; they will get done when they get done. Let's draw a parallel between the nuances of building a relationship and the construction of a home...

Choosing Your Builder: The Inception of a Relationship

Women, you have the privilege of choosing your builder - the one who will materialize your dream home, your future life. The choices are ample, but after careful consideration, you pick one. As the conversation sparks, you share your vision of the perfect home - how it looks, feels, and the vibe it resonates. Remember, you're not just planning a house but crafting a blueprint for your future life.

Surveying the land is crucial - Is it the right community? Are the neighbors amicable? All these considerations play a significant role in determining if this is where you want to lay the foundation of your future. Jim Rohn aptly said, "You can't build a house unless you already see it finished first." It's a perfect parallel for relationships - envisage the end, and then start working towards it.

Constructing Your Dream Home: Nurturing a Relationship

Now, the labor of love begins. As your chosen builder, I strive to transform your visualized dream into reality. But keep in mind - every construction is unique, much like every relationship. Although societal norms might dictate a timeline, love doesn't abide by it. Forcing stages before their due time can lead to an unstable structure. The same applies to relationships.

Allow the builder - your partner - to work at their pace, without pressuring them based on external influences. Your dream home, like your relationship, needs to be built meticulously, ensuring a strong, lasting foundation. Remember, dreams do materialize, but one can't pin an exact date and time to them. Just keep dreaming, and slowly, but surely, it will unfold into your reality.

The Fine Line Between Friendship and Relationship: A Matter of Actions

A friendship where two people relate is, in essence, a relationship. You can label it a friendship all day long, but if time and effort are invested in understanding and relating to each other, it is a relationship. Actions, indeed, speak louder than words.

As always, remember to be unapologetically selfish, radiating your happiness. It can inspire others to pursue their happiness too.

After all, "If you can't see your success, change your vantage point."

Key Points

1. Love and relationships are highly personal experiences, much like building a house.
2. Applying unnecessary pressure based on societal norms or expectations can disrupt the natural progression of a relationship.
3. Friendship where two individuals relate is a relationship in its essence.

The Intriguing Intersection of Love and Sales: Meeting at the Dealership

Let's take a spin into the world of car sales – an unexpected yet potent metaphor for the dating game. You pull up to the dealership, your eyes scanning the shiny parade of potential new rides. Here, the salesman doesn't need to sell you a car. You're already in the market. His task? Simply to match your desires with an option at a price the dealership approves. Now, let's cruise this concept into the dating realm...

Striking the Perfect Deal: Selling Attention for Affection

If someone finds your exterior appealing, they're likely to approach you. It's the law of attraction. Now, all you need to do is to strike a balance between what they want and what you can offer. Take, for instance, the age-old trade-off in dating: a man gives a woman attention; in return, she offers intimacy. But there's a catch – more often than not, the exchange ends there. It's a hasty transaction, skipping the potential for depth.

But consider this: what if he approached her offering time and attention? This time, she's winning. There had to be a reason he approached in the first place. Through a series of chats, he reveals his true desire: a relationship. As this dance continues, his emotional investment grows. When he's truly hooked, that's when she can sell him a relationship on her terms. Sound familiar? It mirrors the protracted process of buying a car.

Unmasking the Alpha Male: The Power of Confidence and Attention to Detail

Society often equates physical fitness with 'Alpha' status. But what if one doesn't fit the societal mould of a chiseled Greek god? Enter the world of the charismatic, confident, 'business developer' types. These are the ones who, despite not being gym buffs, exude confidence and an exceptional eye for detail. They've nailed the packaging, understand the walk, and have mastered the talk.

This breed of 'business developers' have a unique challenge. They must seek out clients (potential partners) and prove their worth. In social situations, they face numerous tests to their 'Alpha' status. And believe me, being an Alpha is all about readiness and resilience, something I'll delve deeper into in my upcoming GentleMANliness series.

The Intriguing Dance of Sales and Seduction: Why Business Developers Shine

The 'business developer' approach to dating might seem more demanding than the casual 'car salesman' method. However, business developers suggest better ways to invest your 'mental cash', such as time, on things that appreciate over time, rather than instant gratification that often depreciates.

Let's be clear, this post isn't to disregard the fit and fabulous. Instead, it's a rallying cry for those who may not fit the conventional attractiveness mould to understand their unique value in the relationship market. It's time to ponder: Who truly reaps more rewards, whether in mental or physical 'cash'?

Stay tuned, as we dive deeper into the nuances of GentleMANliness.

As always, remember to be unabashedly selfish and radiate your happiness. It's infectious. After all, "If you can't see your success, change your vantage point."

Key Points

1. The dating game is comparable to a sales scenario, with each party offering something the other wants.
2. Confidence, detail-oriented, and charisma are attractive attributes that can compete with physical fitness.
3. Mental 'cash' like time, attention, and emotional investment often yield greater returns in relationships.

The Alluring Dance of Love: The True Lover's Tango

Welcome to the world of love, a mysterious place where we often trade authenticity for approval. It's the arena where our dashing representative – that slick, suave version of ourselves – steps forward, ready to engage in a passionate tango. This deceptive dance is what I call the Seductive Chameleon Effect.

When we start dating, we're authentic – we're real. Then, as we begin to fall for someone, we instinctively start mirroring them. It's the highest form of flattery, or so we've been led to believe. Consider the Casanova who turns into a gentle romantic because he's found 'The One'. Love is his kryptonite, his transformation catalyst. He feels the need to convince his lady that his philandering days are behind him. Why? Because he realizes the damage he's done, the hearts he's toyed with – but trust me, darling, I'm digressing.

Here's what happens next. You begin to mold your world to her liking, even sacrificing your pleasures for hers. Picture this: You're a culinary maestro who loves whipping up hearty Spaghetti Alfredo, eating it right out of the bowl. But when she's around, you become a gourmet chef, serving the same dish in exquisite Nora Fleming dishes. That's the Seductive Chameleon Effect in action.

Unveiling Your True Colors: The Reality Behind the Masquerade

This chameleon dance continues until you're comfortable enough in the relationship to be yourself again. Suddenly, she's exposed to the real you – the guy who enjoys spaghetti on the couch while binging College Football all Saturday in his favorite (slightly worn-out) boxer briefs. This is where the confusion sets in; she never knew this was the real you.

In love, our auto-pilot often takes the wheel, leading us to make changes we aren't conscious of. Like me, you might find yourself trying to persuade your partner that you've left behind some old habits or principles. Here's the catch: love's compelling tug-of-war keeps you grounded, despite your instincts urging you to flee. And the most exciting part? She's performing the same dance too!

Dancing to Your Own Rhythm: Overcoming the Seductive Chameleon Effect

The antidote to the Seductive Chameleon Effect? Simple. Embrace your selfishness. Pursue your passions. Love in your unique way. Be present, not a puppet controlled by auto-pilot. We're all shape-shifters, constantly evolving with every tick of the clock.

Adopt the "Love Me or Leave Me" philosophy – a straightforward, yet powerful mantra that encourages acceptance of yourself and your partner, just as you both are. Don't settle for less, whether it's a mediocre pair of shoes or a lackluster Spaghetti Alfredo presentation. But keep in mind, the 80/20 rule before you make a run for the exit.

To truly ignite our relationships, we must bypass the Seductive Chameleon Effect and prioritize our happiness. Anything less leads to an inevitable downward spiral.

So, dare to be selfish and remember, your happiness is your greatest seduction. As always, "If you can't see your success, change your vantage point.”

Key Points

1. The Seductive Chameleon Effect refers to how we change ourselves to please our partners in the early stages of a relationship.
2. To stay authentic in love, adopt the "Love Me or Leave Me" philosophy.
3. Prioritizing personal happiness can help maintain genuine relationships.

Becoming the Smile Generator

So, you've graduated from the basics of Modern Chivalry Level 1, and you're already bringing a new energy to every room you walk into. People are drawn to you, women can't resist your charm, and men want to be you. But the game's not over. Let's dive into the nuances of Modern Chivalry Level 2.

Trust in Your Momentum

Level 2 is all about understanding confidence. It's not a magic potion you chug down, it's a muscle you've been training. You've begun to trust yourself, and the momentum is building. That momentum is an infectious positivity, an energy that you're spreading with every laugh and smile.

Making a Game of Smiles

How about we play a game? It's called the 'Smile Game'. Set a daily goal for the smiles you're aiming to inspire. On Day 1, you aim for one smile. On Day 2, it's two smiles. Keep it rolling, and if you ever miss a day, no worries, just add those smiles to the next day's target. And here's the trick - the first smile of the day is always your own.

Mastering the Beast

The ultimate goal of Level 2 is controlling the beast within - your emotions. Whether it's food, alcohol, sex, money, or video games, if you let these desires control you, they turn into beasts. But if you control them, they can serve you. Power comes from restoring balance where there was chaos.

Modern Chivalry Level 2 Rules

1. Stand Tall, Stand Confident: You've already worked on this. Keep building that momentum.
2. Find Your Smile Trigger: Understand what brings a smile to your face. Hold on to that. Use it when times get tough.
3. Track the Happiness around You: Notice when people smile. Use this power wisely - for creating happiness, not spreading negativity.
4. Go the Extra Mile: Develop the habit of doing more for others. It may seem selfless, but the joy you spread will return to you tenfold.

Key Points:

• Trust in your growing confidence.
• Play the 'Smile Game'.
• Learn to control your emotions.
• Use your power to spread positivity.

The Once and Future Gentleman

Have you ever daydreamed about the kind of old-school charm that'd make dames swoon and gents nod in approval? Buckle up, playboys, we're taking a wild ride back to the future. We're talking about Modern Chivalry, where charisma meets courtesy, and irresistible charm is the new cool.

Welcome to the Techno-Jungle

Ever considered how tech might be sabotaging your love game? Back in the day, chivalry was our ace, our secret sauce. Then, out of nowhere, doors started opening themselves, TV screens started blurting out curse words, and smart phones put provocative content right in our hands. Just like that, the art of Modern Chivalry started fading, and so did the allure of the irresistible gentleman. But fret not, we've got the roadmap to get you back in the game.

Level Up Your S.W.A.G

Ready to revive your inner gallant knight? Let's dive into our four-level Modern Chivalry boot camp:

1. Confidence is Key:

Stop playing the comparison game. You’re the only you in this universe. Embrace your uniqueness, flaws, and all. If you're not loving yourself, why should anyone else?

2. A Positive Vibe Attracts the Tribe:

Flash a smile, crack a joke, and be the sunshine everyone craves. Trust me, laughter is an aphrodisiac.

3. Choose Your Words Wisely:

Ditch the curse words, unless it’s a dire situation. Be different, stand out. And when a gentleman speaks, everyone listens.

4. Respect Women - All Women

Open doors, let her in first, help her to the table. Don't just do it for the applause, do it because it’s the right thing to do. That, my friend, is Modern Chivalry.

Key Points:

• Technology is sabotaging traditional chivalry.
• Confidence, positivity, respectful language, and treating women with respect are integral to Modern Chivalry.

Here's a Sexy, Swept-up Story from the Hot Seat of a Barbershop!

Ah, the barbershop - a carnival of conversations, an Olympic arena of fiery debates, where a guy can be a 'Guy.' Each visit is a ride through a labyrinth of chatter, some sensible, some random. But today, my dear readers, the conversation took an exciting detour into my lane. Buckle up!

Enter The "Cool Guy"

You know the guy - always trying to ruffle feathers with his tales of conquest. So, in walks Mr. "I've-Got-It-All," attempting to assert his coolness. Not on my watch, bud. Here's the juicy bit:

Johnny Everready: "So, my side-piece asked me, 'Is this just about the fun in bed?' I said, 'No way, I like you.' What would you guys say?"

Cue the laughter, the applause, the cheerleading. But I, the relationship whisperer, decided to shake things up a bit:

Swagger Coxch: "ABSOLUTELY! But darling, you do that little thing that drives me wild!" Of course, that was a slick lie. I added, "Isn't she supposed to be your side-piece?"

For the uninitiated, a "side-piece" or "jump-off" is someone you call for some no-strings-attached action. But apparently, not everyone got that memo.

"Why Not Be Honest, Johnny?"

Our man, Johnny, wasn't keen on being forthright. He feared losing the "benefits" of his side-piece arrangement. To that, I say, "Confidence issue?" Nope, says Johnny, he couldn't care less.

But when I probed, Johnny tried to deflect:

Johnny Everready: "Have you dealt with many women? Are you married?"

And I, ever the gentleman, put him back in his place, "Not up for discussion, champ. You're the one trying to play Kanye here."

The Real Deal

What unfolded next was Johnny admitting his five-year "affair" while being married. My stance was clear: "You're playing a single man's game while married, bro. You're basically married to two women now."

Johnny thought he found a way out, claiming he did things with his side-piece he couldn't do with his wife.

Swagger Coxch: "Then, you chose wrong, Johnny. You've suppressed your desires or lied to your wife from the beginning. You should have found someone who's into the same stuff as you. You wouldn't have to cheat then."

To cut a long story short, Johnny confessed to being greedy, to wanting his wife and his side-piece. I left him with this thought, "If you haven't shared enough emotions with your wife, or before you married your wife, that might be the problem. You're dealing with two packages, each with its own set of headaches."

What's the Verdict, Folks?

This barbershop tale of love, lust, and misplaced affections left me wondering. But what do you think? I'd love to hear your thoughts.

And remember, always be fuching selfish, because your happiness can inspire others.

"If you can't see your success, change your vantage pointe."

Key Points:

• The Barbershop: A Male Bonding Space
• The Tale of Johnny Everready: A Married Man’s Adventures
• Swagger Coach vs Johnny: A Battle of Perspectives

"Hey there, beautiful people! Have you ever heard people brag about how they're the luckiest ones around? That's exactly what the king of hip-hop, Jay-Z, confessed during his Fade to Black concert movie. That night, he felt he had the world in his hand – all stars aligned, just waiting for him to pluck one. Sounds enchanting, doesn't it?

Love, Luck, and a Dash of Passion

Back in the good ol' days, getting 'lucky' meant more than a casual fling; it was about finding love. And when you find love, my dears, luck seems to follow you like a smitten puppy.

Have you ever felt that strange energy – a vibrant hum that fills you when you're truly, deeply passionate about something? Jay-Z's passion for rap made him ready for that perfect night he dreamt of. His intense love for his craft stirred the universe, drawing luck towards him.

Channeling Your Inner Doctor (or Whatever Your Passion May Be)

Now, remember your childhood fantasies? Pretending to be a doctor, a pilot, or a princess, perhaps? You loved the idea so intensely that it was almost as if the universe couldn’t resist aligning everything to make it happen. Your teacher got sick before the exam, you snagged a 'B' on that party-inspired paper (confession time: it had your mom's secret pie recipe hidden in it).

If you didn’t pay attention to these small miracles, you may not have realized how lucky you've been all along. Consider the delightful synchronicity that has led you to where you stand now!

Turn up the Love Frequency

Find your love. Embrace it. Let it bubble up inside you until it forms a passion so intense, it vibrates through your being. Then, take a step back and watch in awe as your own unique dance of love and luck unfolds, guiding the stars to align just for you.

And remember, my lovely ones, be gloriously selfish. Your radiant happiness will become a beacon for others to follow. Because, "if you can't see your success, change your vantage pointe."

Key Points:

1. Love and luck are intimately connected.
2. Your passion acts as a beacon, attracting luck.
3. Recognizing the little miracles in life helps you realize your own luck.
4. Embrace your passions and watch as the stars align.