Picture me, muscles flexed, wrestling a mountain of dirty dishes at the sink. Yup, this man knows his way around a sponge and a bottle of Fairy Liquid. My wife, true to her mom's old-school practices, believes in letting the dishes "soak." And by the time I'm ready for the wash, the water's turned a shade of murky brown.
As I turn on the tap, a burst of crystal-clear water rushes out. One by one, I pick the "soaking" dishes, give them a thorough scrub, and then place them in the dishwasher to dry. And yes, I confess, I use the dishwasher as a drying rack. Old habits die hard.
Now, here's where things get interesting. As I drain the brown water with clear water still gushing, a realization hits me like a jet spray.
A lot of us are stewing in dirty water—or rather, our minds are. Have you been feasting on the toxic broth of negative memes about how terrible men are? You might find yourself nodding in agreement. A meme flashes, saying something about a man's hollow love declarations if his actions say otherwise. Your inner voice goes, "Preach! I knew he was a jerk." You're buying into this because your mind is soaking in this negative soup—let's call it what it is—propaganda. This negativity is making your ideas and perceptions (aka dishes) grime-laden.
Don't forget that a man's love language might not resonate with yours, but it doesn't mean his feelings are any less real. The dirty water is playing tricks on your mind!
Here's the game plan: extract those dishes from the dirty water, scrub off the negativity, rinse them with the fresh stream of positivity, and let them dry in the sunshine of optimism. Then, pull that plug. Let go of the negativity. Cleanse your mental space.
How about a detox? Stay away from negative social media for 30 days, and instead, immerse yourself in positivity. I promise you, not only will your love life take a turn for the better, but you'll witness a complete transformation in your life.
Now, the million-dollar question: Who's game for a dishwashing challenge?